Building Blocks of a Strong Relationship

It was always made clear to me that a relationship relies on both individuals simultaneously striving towards the mutual goals set forth by both sides. Realistically, the main objective of a romantic bond between two people is based on the building blocks of faith, appreciation, empathy, and trust.

Faith

 

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

-Martin Luther King Jr.

First, faith plays a crucial role for when there are bumps in the road. At some point in every relationship, both sides will be faced with challenges. For survival, both partners must continue to have faith that their love for each other will prevail and overcome the obstacles. This faith will help with short-term roadblocks and also prepare couples on how to deal with obstacles in the future.

Appreciation

 

“I think for any relationship to be successful, there needs to be loving communication, appreciation, and understanding.”

-Miranda Kerr

All in all, most of us can agree that couples feel more comfortable when they believe their significant other can see their point of view. Life, in particular relationships, would be very colorless if both people thought and acted the same way. That being said, appreciation stands for the accepting, respecting, and celebrating of the different gifts and feelings of both sides.

Empathy

“Never above you. Never below you. Always beside you.”

-Walter Winchell

Through empathy, that special bond between two people can begin to build. Every relationship, not just romantic, allows us to learn something, by creating positive interaction with other people’s feelings and needs. One way couples can do this is to not blame, give advice, or fix the situation, but relate to each other’s emotions in a positive way.

Trust

 

“The best proof of love is trust.”

-Joyce Brothers

Trust is the most important building block in a relationship. Couples may struggle with this key component but this doesn’t mean that it’s not there. Jealously may sometimes arise and in certain situations could give off negative energy. Although this may lead to an argument or a feeling of distrust, there is always a deeper meaning. Talk with one another to figure out that middle ground in which both sides of the relationship can exist in a healthy manner. Get curious about what makes the other person jealous and then work together to come up with ways to minimize that jealousy. Through time and patience, couples can further develop this trust allowing them to take the footsteps of upward growth.

Unity

 

“Unity is strength…when there is teamwork and collaboration, wonderful things can be achieved.”

-Mattie Stepanek

Through learning to contribute the building blocks of faith, compassion, empathy, and trust to a relationship, a couple can start to feel a holistic view of each other. One can argue that when using the values, actions, and emotions, of both sides, two people can truly feel as though they are in complete unity with one another.

The Power of the Past

It can be difficult to look at where life has taken us. Looking back on the memories/moments in my own life, I’ve come to the realization that all of my past experiences have shaped me into who I am today. However, sometimes I wonder what it would be like to relive one of my greatest memories or even have the ability to change one of my biggest regrets. Imagine what it would be like if you were able to alter time and make up for past mistakes. Without a doubt, this simply impossible. But let’s imagine that there was some type of power that allowed us to alter time, would you use it? I am not so sure I would.

Chances are my life would be very different and the things to which I am most grateful for may not be apart of me at all. Although it would be super cool to change the past, unfortunately, it would cost me the price of losing the very things in which make me who I am. For that reason, and that reason alone, I would not want to change a single memory or experienced in my lifetime. Having the people, opportunities, and memories of my life today far outweighs the risk of losing it all just to change a single bad moment in my past. I would rather have both the good and bad of my past than to have none at all.

Our memories are what shape us for who we are. They are the sole purpose of how we think, what we do, and who we will become. Without them, we are lost in a world where there is no recollection of identity. They fill us with joy and sorrow, build us up while also tear us down. But no matter what, memories are our own special treasure that we all ought to cherish. Without them, our lives are empty.

Be Grateful

Be grateful….

Often times I feel that people, including myself, forget that we are blessed with so many great things in our life. A great family, great friends, or a great opportunity to succeed, these are just a couple aspects of our lives that we should look at and be grateful for.

The easy thing to do is look at all the things that try to tear us down on a daily basis. Now, when doing this, you may get sympathy at first. But after awhile feeling bad while then having others reminding you how bad you feel, begins to negatively effect the way you think. This is how a negative mindset is born which, in my opinion, is just sad.

I truly believe, that if someone wants to change their life for the better, they 100 percent can. But what troubles me the most is why people feel the need to simply waste their days dwelling over what they can’t control? Why they feel the need to act in manner, which doesn’t fit their personality, simply to just fit in? Both of these concern the hell out of me, but what is the most confusing is why individuals continue to sit back and watching others live their dreams when they themselves have the same opportunity to succeed? Although, it may seem cliche, you only get one life so make it count.

Be Like Water

"Be formless, shapeless like water. When you pour water into a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can flow and it can crash. Become like water my friend."

Although, Bruce Lee was describing water, the deeper meaning behind this quote is the comparison to humans. Strangely enough, when one can go outside their comfort zone to achieve something, it will be achieved. When a person puts their whole mind into achieving a dream, they will achieve that dream. The moment you begin to believe you can, you will.

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