Making The Change

Mindset is everything in this world.

Without a strong mind, the odds of success drop substantially and the chance of impacting the world becomes harder and harder. If you have been wondering how it is someone can develop the mindset of success, the answer you seek lies within your own self.

Making the Change  

Over and over again we remind ourselves of the things we wish to change in our life. Whether it’s to workout more, study better, or make more money we struggle on a daily basis to fulfill these promises to ourselves.

Making the change first starts with the realization of where you are at a particular moment in life and figuring out how to improve it. When you can come to grasp with where you are, figuring out your direction becomes easier and easier. The issue with why people never get past this step is due to the longevity of maintaining the change. Anyone can say they want to lose weight, but not everyone has the internal drive to consistently go to the gym and workout to lose that weight. Nothing in life is given, only through hard work and dedication does true change happen.

“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” -Winston Churchill 

 

In other words, you must first fail in order to succeed. Without the feeling of defeat, we can never begin to understand the true value of mental growth. Knowledge itself is the most valuable aspect of life, more valuable than money or fame. Gaining knowledge, however, is something most people may never quite understand. With that being said, human experience is a perfect example of a factor that contributes to the overall idea of gaining knowledge. What we go through impacts how we behave and think which results in our lives being directed down a specific path. Although this may seem easy, without one HUGE component, you will never be able to change your life or mindset.

“Knowledge has a beginning but no end” -Geeta Iyengar 

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Without patience, none of this is possible. When patience is developed, knowledge can be gained; and when knowledge is gained, change can be made.

“Have patience. All things are difficult before they become easy.” -Saadi

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I truly believe that everyone has a gift to share with this world. Whatever that gift is, you have the ability to recognize it, develop it, and act on it. People often go through life with regret, anger, and confusion. Some may never even fully understand who they are as a person. If you are someone that is living your life just going through the motions, I can PROMISE you that with a little internal drive and patience, you will be surprised what can be accomplished. Everyone deserves to feel happy, fulfilled, and loved but it first starts with understanding who you truly are. Don’t wait any longer, start taking steps in the right direction and find out how truly amazing life can be.

 

 

 

Be Like Water

"Be formless, shapeless like water. When you pour water into a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can flow and it can crash. Become like water my friend."

Although, Bruce Lee was describing water, the deeper meaning behind this quote is the comparison to humans. Strangely enough, when one can go outside their comfort zone to achieve something, it will be achieved. When a person puts their whole mind into achieving a dream, they will achieve that dream. The moment you begin to believe you can, you will.

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The Power of Internal Focus (Mental Mastery)

Socrates once said, “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” Although it may sound simple there is a deeper meaning that lies beneath these words of wisdom.

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In each moment we are making a decision on what to focus on which will determine what we believe and how we act. Let’s use baseball for example. A pop fly is hit to center field and like several times before the outfielder gets into position to make an easy play. Just before the ball begins to drop the sun blinds the player which affects his ability to make the catch. By the time he recovers the ball is lying on the ground and two base runner have score putting the other team ahead by one. The inning ends and the players return to the dug out ready to reclaim the lead. Meanwhile, the center fielder continues to focus on how he screwed up such an easy out. Too much in life people focus solely on all that is wrong and focus so little on what they can do to correct the actual mistake. In this situation, the baseball player is choosing to focus on the fact that because he dropped the ball and because of that they lost the lead. Yes, all of this is true, but what he should be focusing on is the next opportunity to get his team back in the lead. By doing this he understands what he did wrong while also focusing on ways he can help his team get back into the game. Ironically, he is the next batter up to hit. Besides the fact of what just happened, he steps up to the plate confidently ready to make a big play. With a runner on first base, the pitcher throws the ball. CRACK! He crushes the ball into left field

soaring over the outfield wall.

The home run puts them in lead and they win the game. This is the result of him making the decision to focus on the present rather than in the past.

It doesn’t just apply to baseball, this concept pertains to every aspect of life. Whether it’s choosing to focus on a certain mood, emotion, or relationship all of it contributes to our actions. Furthermore, how we act throughout our life determines the quality of lifestyle that is adopted. Continuing to focus only on the bad will cause frustration which flows into anger leading to depression.

On the other hand, focusing on the deeper meaning in any particular situation and then using that to move forward will create more opportunities to succeed.

In a sense, we are what we believe we are. There nothing in the world that is more powerful than the internal focus of one’s mind which if mastered can open doors you’ve never imagined. The idea of choosing what to focus on may seem quite easy but the complexity comes from within. As a matter of fact, the level of difficulty it takes to learn internal focus is entirely up to what we want it to be.

Above all, do not get confused with the idea that there is a specific way that all people should focus or think. In my opinion, I believe that everyone has their own way of thinking and dealing with circumstances in their life. For some, it may be helping the poor. For others, it could be violence.

Now, I DO NOT believe violence is the way to solve a problem but it doesn’t matter what I believe, people will act out of violence no matter what.

Ultimately, I don’t have to accept the lifestyle of others but what I must do is respect the reality they have decided to live in. Meaning the way we choose to live each day of our lives doesn’t have to be determined by those of another. At the same time, being able to respect someone else’s lifestyle allows one to perceive how they want to live their own life and how they do not. This is known as bridging realities. Bridging the reality between two individuals lets us take the time to reinvent beliefs while also adopting new standards for the way of life we wish to live.

Above all, it’s the ability to bounce back after a failure that shows a person’s true character. Roy T. Bennett said it best, “the one who falls and gets back up is much stronger than the one who never tried at all. Do not fear failure but rather fear not trying.” That being said, if you haven’t taken anything away from this just remember one thing. The single most important decision we are constantly making is what to focus on. Choosing to master the mind can allow us to begin living the life we’ve always dreamed. The faster you can learn internal focus the faster you can change your life.

Ways to Deal with Emotions

Emotions are a powerful tool that we can use if we fully understand what they are trying to tell us. A lot of people try dealing with their emotions by pushing them to the side or taking them head on. Those strategies may work in the short run but long term they will only get worse. 

That being said I am here to give you a strategy on how to positively deal with your emotions and how to use them to your advantage. 

Step 1: Question the Emotion 

Ask yourself what type of message this emotion is really trying to get across to you. When you figure out what it really means begin moving forward and transforming what it means to you. 

Step 2: Brainstorm Possible Outcomes

It is easier to act on emotions when you brainstorm how you can use them. When thinking of how you will act also start thinking about what will come out of it. Come up with a solid idea of where you are going and how you will get there. This makes it easier for your mind to actually allow you to achieve getting to that state of happiness. 

Step 3: Action

After you’ve figure out what the emotions true meaning and have came up with a solid plan of action, put it into action. When acting on emotional messages work on developing the skills of focus, patience, and communication. These skills will help you build relationships, create conversations, and change your life. 

Step 4: Reflection

After acting on an emotional message take the time to reflect on what you did and how you did it. Ask yourself what you did right and what you did wrong. Emotional progress is mastered  through trial and error. Learn from the mistakes and reward yourself for the positive. 

I highly recommend taking these steps the next time you feel an emotion spiraling out of control. Remember, every emotion we feel is trying to tell us a deeper meaning that gives us the opportunity to possibly take our life to the next level. Don’t miss your opportunity. 

Emotional Breakthrough 

The state we are in during any particular moment powerfully impacts the meaning we assign to something. 

Have you ever lost your cool on someone but didn’t mean to? The state you were in was the reason for your action to become upset with that person even though they may have done nothing at all. Developing successful relationships results when a person learns to live life where they and the people around them feel no pain because of emotions. Choosing to feel good tends to form a state of happiness. Just like a muscle your mind needs constant exercise in order to grow. Pushing yourself beyond the limit and that is when you will start to see the growth. 
                           

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Now if it was that simple everyone would be happy. So let’s begin to understand just how to develop this state of happiness. 
Changing state means changing the meaning you link to something. One way that you can change your state is by changing your physiology (movement of your body). Someone who goes for a run everyday will feel more “alive” than the person who sleeps until twelve o’clock every morning. Why? This is because every single emotion you have can be linked back to your physical motion. Emotions send different biochemical impulses to your body which then effect your overall state. More motion results in more emotion. 

Think of your state on a level from zero to ten. Ten being unstoppable and zero being terrible. What level are you in at this moment? Learning to live at level ten will overtime lead to the formation of a habit. Having the habit to live at level ten will transform your entire life. The constant state of positivity will not only feed your hunger to get more but also positivity grow the relationships with those around you. The more we measure our level the better we will get at maintaining it.

What we tell ourselves also plays a role in developing a state of happiness. If we hangs what we focus on we can change how we feel. Try not to focus on the the pain of the past because the outcome will never change. Sometimes we think about bad things that haven’t even occured yet which cause our state to change. Why would someone focus on something that hasn’t happened yet? Having faith and courage will allow you to feel the pain of emotions once and then move forward. Try thinking about something that made you happy in the past or something that you are looking forward to. Your brain cannot tell the difference between a real life event and a dream. This means the things we vividly imagine have the same impact on us as the real life experiences we have had. 


Certain questions you ask yourself link what type of feeling you will have from an emotion. See, most people act on their emotions the moment they feel it which most of the time results in a negative outcome. Next time this happens ask yourself “What else could this mean”? When asking this you are looking for the deeper meaning that truly drives this emotion. What is this emotion really trying to tell me? It could mean a chance to grow a certain skill or maybe rebuild a broken relationship. Whatever it is be sure to stop and take a minute to ask yourself these questions. 

There is no such thing as a negative emotion. All feelings you have are trying to give you the deeper message so that you can evolve your life to the next step. You have the choice to do one of two things when you figure out what an emotion is really trying to tell you. 

  • Change your perception 
  • Take action 

What makes a negative emotion is when you don’t fully understand the message it is trying to get across to you. The key is to figure out the meaning quick because over time it will begin to get bigger. Don’t make your emotions wrong, appreciate them for what they are and use them to make your life better. 

Check out my post “Ways to Deal with Emotions” for more insight on the specific steps to take when creating an emotional breakthrough. 

Process to Achievement 

Goals can be achieved through hard work and a solid plan of action. I call this the “Process to Achievement” and if taken into consideration it can help you check off the goals you’ve always dreamed of achieving. It is broken into four categories that deal with the aspect human emotion and some core values that we all posses. 

Influence  

There are several factors that can influence our lives. Surroundings, individuals, and ideology are just a few of the influences that can start shaping the mindset of a person. 


Influence can pull you towards a goal but in an instant destroy it. The key to finding the right influence is to listen to your heart and be open to advice from other people who have accomplished some of the same goals. Be careful because not everyone means well so when searching for what influences you be sure to use good judgement. 

Beliefs 

Have you ever sat down and really thought about what you believed in? Beliefs are what make up the ideas of this world. They have been know to start wars while others have changed the way people look at the things as a whole. 


Core beliefs are what will play the biggest role in how many of your goals will end up being achieved. At one point along the line challeges will come up and your beliefs are what will hold everything together. 

Finding what you believe in is just a small part when working towards a goal. In order to keep the process moving forward, grow on those core beliefs and by doing this you will be propeled towards that ultimate goal. 

Focus
Stay sharp when making decisions and don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Failure is a part of life but it does not define our nature as humans. I’ve made more mistakes than I could ever count but what keeps me going is the hunger for progress and desire to learn how to correct those mistakes. Failure doesn’t determine our future, controlling our emotions does.


By focusing on the small success you have each day it will eventually add up. Progression of the mind (focus) will move a person to reach a peak performance ready to tackle any obstacle standing in the way. 

Patience 

Good things come in time and it applies to goals as well. It may take weeks, months, or even years to achieve a goal so be prepared to sharpen your patience. 

Patience is essentially the key to controlling emotion. By developing this skill you can open doors along the journey that you never thought possible. 

Have faith in what is coming but also understanding there may be an outside force that are working in your favor. Listen to your heart and learn to control the emotions that drive you forward. Figure out how to master your mind and the world will open up to you. 

The Challenges We Face

We can all agree that the world can be a scary place. Why is my life filled with multiple challenges that make everything a hundred times harder? This is the question that millions of people around the world ask themselves every day. Whether its lack of stability, financial issues, or personal health there are hundreds of challenges that we face throughout the course of our lives.

What if I told you that there was a way that all of your problems could be solved? Would you believe me?

The biggest mistake the people make is not understanding that the challenges we face are not of this world but of our own mind.

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Most of the society is caught up in the twisted idea that we can’t control the challenges that come our way. I’m not saying that people have the ability to eliminate their problems but they do have the choice to either overcome it or feel sorry for themselves. Those who positively approach challenges head on are usually the ones who will get positive results. However, those who choose to be negative toward their challenges will get negative results.

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The moment you realize that life is meant to work for you not against you is the moment that will change your whole mindset.

It’s as simple as that.

Those who let the chaos of the world beat them down will be the first to crumble. But the few who strive to overcome the mayhem will stand tall.