Building Blocks of a Strong Relationship

It was always made clear to me that a relationship relies on both individuals simultaneously striving towards the mutual goals set forth by both sides. Realistically, the main objective of a romantic bond between two people is based on the building blocks of faith, appreciation, empathy, and trust.

Faith

 

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

-Martin Luther King Jr.

First, faith plays a crucial role for when there are bumps in the road. At some point in every relationship, both sides will be faced with challenges. For survival, both partners must continue to have faith that their love for each other will prevail and overcome the obstacles. This faith will help with short-term roadblocks and also prepare couples on how to deal with obstacles in the future.

Appreciation

 

“I think for any relationship to be successful, there needs to be loving communication, appreciation, and understanding.”

-Miranda Kerr

All in all, most of us can agree that couples feel more comfortable when they believe their significant other can see their point of view. Life, in particular relationships, would be very colorless if both people thought and acted the same way. That being said, appreciation stands for the accepting, respecting, and celebrating of the different gifts and feelings of both sides.

Empathy

“Never above you. Never below you. Always beside you.”

-Walter Winchell

Through empathy, that special bond between two people can begin to build. Every relationship, not just romantic, allows us to learn something, by creating positive interaction with other people’s feelings and needs. One way couples can do this is to not blame, give advice, or fix the situation, but relate to each other’s emotions in a positive way.

Trust

 

“The best proof of love is trust.”

-Joyce Brothers

Trust is the most important building block in a relationship. Couples may struggle with this key component but this doesn’t mean that it’s not there. Jealously may sometimes arise and in certain situations could give off negative energy. Although this may lead to an argument or a feeling of distrust, there is always a deeper meaning. Talk with one another to figure out that middle ground in which both sides of the relationship can exist in a healthy manner. Get curious about what makes the other person jealous and then work together to come up with ways to minimize that jealousy. Through time and patience, couples can further develop this trust allowing them to take the footsteps of upward growth.

Unity

 

“Unity is strength…when there is teamwork and collaboration, wonderful things can be achieved.”

-Mattie Stepanek

Through learning to contribute the building blocks of faith, compassion, empathy, and trust to a relationship, a couple can start to feel a holistic view of each other. One can argue that when using the values, actions, and emotions, of both sides, two people can truly feel as though they are in complete unity with one another.

The Power of the Past

It can be difficult to look at where life has taken us. Looking back on the memories/moments in my own life, I’ve come to the realization that all of my past experiences have shaped me into who I am today. However, sometimes I wonder what it would be like to relive one of my greatest memories or even have the ability to change one of my biggest regrets. Imagine what it would be like if you were able to alter time and make up for past mistakes. Without a doubt, this simply impossible. But let’s imagine that there was some type of power that allowed us to alter time, would you use it? I am not so sure I would.

Chances are my life would be very different and the things to which I am most grateful for may not be apart of me at all. Although it would be super cool to change the past, unfortunately, it would cost me the price of losing the very things in which make me who I am. For that reason, and that reason alone, I would not want to change a single memory or experienced in my lifetime. Having the people, opportunities, and memories of my life today far outweighs the risk of losing it all just to change a single bad moment in my past. I would rather have both the good and bad of my past than to have none at all.

Our memories are what shape us for who we are. They are the sole purpose of how we think, what we do, and who we will become. Without them, we are lost in a world where there is no recollection of identity. They fill us with joy and sorrow, build us up while also tear us down. But no matter what, memories are our own special treasure that we all ought to cherish. Without them, our lives are empty.

Be Grateful

Be grateful….

Often times I feel that people, including myself, forget that we are blessed with so many great things in our life. A great family, great friends, or a great opportunity to succeed, these are just a couple aspects of our lives that we should look at and be grateful for.

The easy thing to do is look at all the things that try to tear us down on a daily basis. Now, when doing this, you may get sympathy at first. But after awhile feeling bad while then having others reminding you how bad you feel, begins to negatively effect the way you think. This is how a negative mindset is born which, in my opinion, is just sad.

I truly believe, that if someone wants to change their life for the better, they 100 percent can. But what troubles me the most is why people feel the need to simply waste their days dwelling over what they can’t control? Why they feel the need to act in manner, which doesn’t fit their personality, simply to just fit in? Both of these concern the hell out of me, but what is the most confusing is why individuals continue to sit back and watching others live their dreams when they themselves have the same opportunity to succeed? Although, it may seem cliche, you only get one life so make it count.

Making The Change

Mindset is everything in this world.

Without a strong mind, the odds of success drop substantially and the chance of impacting the world becomes harder and harder. If you have been wondering how it is someone can develop the mindset of success, the answer you seek lies within your own self.

Making the Change  

Over and over again we remind ourselves of the things we wish to change in our life. Whether it’s to workout more, study better, or make more money we struggle on a daily basis to fulfill these promises to ourselves.

Making the change first starts with the realization of where you are at a particular moment in life and figuring out how to improve it. When you can come to grasp with where you are, figuring out your direction becomes easier and easier. The issue with why people never get past this step is due to the longevity of maintaining the change. Anyone can say they want to lose weight, but not everyone has the internal drive to consistently go to the gym and workout to lose that weight. Nothing in life is given, only through hard work and dedication does true change happen.

“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” -Winston Churchill 

 

In other words, you must first fail in order to succeed. Without the feeling of defeat, we can never begin to understand the true value of mental growth. Knowledge itself is the most valuable aspect of life, more valuable than money or fame. Gaining knowledge, however, is something most people may never quite understand. With that being said, human experience is a perfect example of a factor that contributes to the overall idea of gaining knowledge. What we go through impacts how we behave and think which results in our lives being directed down a specific path. Although this may seem easy, without one HUGE component, you will never be able to change your life or mindset.

“Knowledge has a beginning but no end” -Geeta Iyengar 

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Without patience, none of this is possible. When patience is developed, knowledge can be gained; and when knowledge is gained, change can be made.

“Have patience. All things are difficult before they become easy.” -Saadi

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I truly believe that everyone has a gift to share with this world. Whatever that gift is, you have the ability to recognize it, develop it, and act on it. People often go through life with regret, anger, and confusion. Some may never even fully understand who they are as a person. If you are someone that is living your life just going through the motions, I can PROMISE you that with a little internal drive and patience, you will be surprised what can be accomplished. Everyone deserves to feel happy, fulfilled, and loved but it first starts with understanding who you truly are. Don’t wait any longer, start taking steps in the right direction and find out how truly amazing life can be.

 

 

 

The Trailblazer Method

Have you ever heard someone be described as a trailblazer? The term trailblazer refers to someone who paved the way, or blazed, a trail for others to follow in. In doing so, these people have a profound impact on society but more importantly on humanity as a whole. The beliefs, teachings, and words used by people of such influence can be seen present in the world long after they are gone.

One of the most influential trailblazers, Martin Luther King Jr., paved the way for the African American community during the civil rights movement. Not only did he take a stand for what he believed right, but he also united an entire race to achieve justice for all. In his famous speech “I have a dream” he shared with the world his dream of equality for not just a group of people but for all people. Still to this day many continue to reflect back on MLK’s stand against inequality which shows how much influence he had and still has on the world today.

Let me give you an example that may give a clear picture of a trailblazer does.

Imagine yourself standing at the edge of the woods. Peering into the forest, you see there are many branches and other obstacles that stand in the way of exploring deeper. At first, when you enter the woods, it is hard to navigate through the tall trees and after a while you decide to turn back. The next time you enter the same spot and begin knocking down branches and other obstacles that make it hard to maneuver through the wooded area. A couple more times go by and a visible opening appears making it easy to enter and exit. Over time, a path begins to form allowing easy access to entry and opportunity to go farther into the forest. After awhile you start inviting friends to join you on hikes through the woods and they learn of this “path” of exploration.

What does this have to do with paving the way for humanity? Well even though it is just a simple example, it explains the concept of what a trailblazer truly does.

With that being said, the “Trailblazer Method” is based off of one simple idea…

Anticipating the road ahead.

I believe that when you know what to expect, in any situation, you can start figuring out how to be successful. Whether it’s trying to improve a relationship or maybe just trying to be a better person, knowing the road ahead can be very beneficial. However, in order to anticipate what is to come you must first learn from past and present experiences.

Some ways people can use this method is to help improve their lives and others lives at the same time. When one can figure out what influences them, they can begin to figure out what influences the people around them. This is one characteristic that all trailblazers have in common.

Everyday people are looking for new leaders to stand up and take a stand for what is right in this world. Don’t wait for someone else to have the way, you pave the way. Begin to think of some situations in your own life that can be made easier using the “trailblazer method.” How could anticipating the road ahead make it easier for you to succeed?

Be Like Water

"Be formless, shapeless like water. When you pour water into a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can flow and it can crash. Become like water my friend."

Although, Bruce Lee was describing water, the deeper meaning behind this quote is the comparison to humans. Strangely enough, when one can go outside their comfort zone to achieve something, it will be achieved. When a person puts their whole mind into achieving a dream, they will achieve that dream. The moment you begin to believe you can, you will.

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The Power of Decision Making

Each and every day we make thousands of decisions in which we are affected by. What to eat. Who to spend time with. Even what we decide to focus on plays a role on our lives. In a sense, decisions are the driving forces that control every outcome we have in life. Want to become a better decision maker? Let's give you some steps to harness this powerful tool.

Focus

We are a product of our imagination and will become what we think about. Furthermore, the idea of controlling focus can help you to make better decisions moment to moment allowing for in increase in quality of life.

Making the decision to focus on something that makes you happy will put you into a far better state of mind than if you were to think of something that make you upset. Most of the time, people tend to zero in on all the negative aspects of life and miss out on all life truly has to offer.

For example, say you have a big Algebra exam coming up. You know you don't want to study but in order to get a good grade on the test you must. In this particular scenario there are two outcomes. One being study for the test and most likely get a passing grade or two blow it off and hope not to fail. Now in the back of your head you know what the RIGHT decision is but most likely your focusing on how much you don't want to study. This is the most influential mistake when making a decision.

So the next time you are deciding whether or not to study for an exam remember to focus on the outcomes. Take a second to think, you will be amazed how simple a decision can be if you just focus.

Knowledge

What the best way to make better decisions? Learn from the wrong ones you have made in the past.

Nobody is perfect and realizing that is the first step in transforming the way you make decisions. You will not always make the right choice but over a period of time making decision after decision, you will begin to see a substantial change.

Gain knowledge from past challenges and successes. Use these to your advantage by applying everything you've learned into future decisions. In other words, a person who learns from their mistakes has a far better chance of improving it next time around than a person that doesn't.

Let's go back to the exam example I used before. Say you go into class and take the exam. Afterward, you realize that it was extremely hard and if you would've studied you would've done better. Right here you are faced with another choice to make. Whether to learn from your failure or to blow it off like it never happened. Most likely, the one who realizes what they did wrong will correct that mistake in the future. But the ones who don't realize what they've done will probably fail again.

What decision would you make?

Growth

The last step in improve decision making is to simply grow from past decisions. In order to grow you must first understand what your mistake was. When you can do this, you'll be able to make better decisions down the line.

How does one master decision making? It's actually very simple. Just like a muscle, if we workout it will get bigger and stronger. The same goes for our decision making. The more decisions you make, the better you will get at making the right ones.

If you want a change in your life, first master the decisions you make every day. They are like a roadmap we create for ourself and will determine where we end up.

Choose to take control of your decisions and watch your life transform before your eyes. However, if you continue to make irrational decisions, beware where you'll end up.